Humans never stop mating.
We are continuously out there looking for the one and only true love; it is the only way to keep our race going. We are looking for the fairy tale love, which we grew up fantasizing about and dreaming of for many years. Every generation has its own version.
During this search, we fail to look deep within our souls, hearts, and minds to first fall in love with our own being and our own existence. There is a buried treasure within the soul and heart of each person that walks this earth.
Be honest with yourself:
First, you need to reach a truce agreement with no one else but your own demons, scars, wounds, sadness, and the list goes on. Dig deep and learn all about yourself. Learn to embrace your own flaws before expecting others to embrace and accept them. Learn to love yourself, learn how to forgive yourself, learn to love your own image in the mirror, learn to love yourself unconditionally.
Be honest with you.
One of the many mistakes that we make as we search for that one, we look for it in many. We lose our way in the search.
Be honest with others:
You don’t need to hide the truth; you don’t need to lie about your past relationships or whatever you experienced. We all went through the same thing at one point or another.
Some feel the need to lie about their past to someone new, because they fear a stranger’s judgement.
The lies won’t get you too far, and you will end up hurting yourself or the other person who will end up hurting another person and so on. This is how cycles or patterns begin.
Don’t be a part of it!
Keep your options limited:
Both men and women are guilty of it.
Focus on one person at a time to learn all there is to learn. Give the person a fair chance to show his/her qualities, good and bad. Don’t string them along if you don’t feel anything.
Let that person find out all about you as well, give that person the chance to learn about you, and see your true colors. Many fail to show their inner beauty just because they are so busy playing catch up with four other candidates.
Many fail to experience the beauty of real intimacy and being transparent with others due to the unlimited sea of options in front of them and not knowing what they want and who they want it from.
Don’t fear Intimacy:
Don’t fear getting close to a person, don’t fear letting someone dig into your soul. Let them explore the nooks of your soul; let them see you for who you are. Learn how to let go off your guard.
Embrace the fact that openness is the best policy and is the only way to find the treasure.
Most people are too scared to open and let others see their true colors. They send their representatives on dates to impress the other person; however, they are only fooling themselves and hurting no one else but themselves.
Put all the cards out on the table, don’t fear the game or the players. Show your strengths and weaknesses. Talk of your successes and don’t forget your failures. Reveal your serious side, and don’t forget about your silliness.
No one is flawless, and our flaws are what make us stand out in the crowd. Don’t try to cover it up, don’t try to hide it, it will show one day. Don’t complain about others who don’t open their hearts to you if you aren’t doing it.
Both men and woman complain about the same things which they are also guilty of.
Be honest again:
If you don’t feel anything towards the other person and friendship vibes are kicking in, it’s better to say so as soon as you feel it instead of giving others a sense of false hope.
